Don’t be afraid of your strength

As a woman sometimes we have to face the reality that we will are/have to be the backbone, strength, and light in our families and relationships. There will be times when you want to give in and stop fighting. There will be times when the situation will get the best of you and you will just curl into a ball and become overwhelmed with a combination of emotions. There will be times when you will just let the emotion get the best of you and you will just scream and even cry. There will be times when you will cry out to God and ask “Why me?” He said he would never put more on you than you can bare, but sometimes it will feel like he has more faith in you than you do in yourself. At these times, you have to surround yourself around strong individuals. Not those persons who are physically strong but those seasoned persons who have been where you are; people who are spiritually strong.
People you love will break your heart and disappoint you, that’s life and it’s unavoidable. The key is to stand up for what you know is right. Sometimes you will have to stand alone but that doesn’t mean you are wrong, but standing alone can make your fight that much harder. It’s all a test of your faith. God already has everything planned and knows how the story will end. He is preparing you for something bigger than we you are going through right now. The struggle is to prepare you. Pray until something happens. Pray that you are in the condition and mind frame to receive that in which God has in store for you.

For those of you who are married and even in committed relationships, it takes work to keep it together. It is not all fun and laughs-hugs and kisses. There will be days when it seems that you are the only one who wants the marriage to work. There will be other days where you want to just give in and end it. Don’t let the devil have his way in your life. Things will happen, feelings will be hurt, but if the two of you have the love and the will to try; ask God to be in the mist of all and it will be blessed. It’s not an overnight process and it can’t be a one sided effort. It takes both of the individuals giving their all to compromise, understand, listen, respect, and put the other first above all others for the relationship to begin to get where it needs to be. Ladies sometimes you will have to be that voice and strength to keep things positive and together. Do what you must if you believe in potential of your union. The bible says the man should be the head of the household, and you should follow that; but sometimes you have to be the voice of reasoning and that’s ok. Stay in prayer for your mate as well as yourself. There will be times when you will have to be the stronger person and other times when you will be the weaker of the two. The important thing is that the commitment is there and won’t be easily forgotten or minimized. If that is in place, you will always know that your better half has your back and will walk with you in your time of weakness and need.

My message is, sometimes as women our strength can be viewed as overpowering and can drive people away. Sometimes a woman is so independent and strong-minded that she can drive people away because of her unwillingness or experience to depend on others-even her mate. This is when our strength can be compared to a two-edged sword. Ladies, we have to learn how be strong, take care of ourselves and families without pushing away the ones who want to love us and take care of us. It’s hard and it will take time. The hardest part sometimes is trying to convince those who love you that you are trying to make that change. Ask God to put understanding in their hearts and help them to understand that you are mindful of the problem and are acknowledging your fault. Admitting you are at fault is big and should be commended. When your efforts are not being acknowledged, stay in prayer and continue to stand strong. Even though there is a battle going on within yourself to change something that you have become accustomed to, you have to pull strength from somewhere to keep those people you love close to you and those relationships in tack. Pray for the words to speak that will help them to better understand and be compassionate to what you are going through and why you are the person you are.

Always be woman enough to admit your faults, but never apologize for your strength.

Top Jobs in America

1. Registered nurses: $52,330
2. Postsecondary teachers: $51,800
3. General and operations managers: $77,420
4. Elementary school teachers, except special education: $43,160
5. Accountants and auditors: $50,770
6. Business operation specialists, all others: $53,460
7. Computer software engineers, applications: $74,980
8. Maintenance and repair workers, general: $30,710
9. Carpenters: $34,900
10. Computer systems analysts: $66,460
11. Secondary school teachers, except special and vocational education: $45,650
12. Computer software engineers, systems software: $79,740
13. Physicians and surgeons: $145,600
14. Network systems and data communications analysts: $60,600
15. Automotive service technicians and mechanics: $32,450
16. Licensed practical and licensed vocational nurses: $33,970
17. Management analysts: $63,450
18. Computer support specialists: $40,430
19. Lawyers: $94,930
20. Network and computer systems administrators: $58,190
21. Police and sheriff's patrol officers: $45,210
22. Middle school teachers, except special and vocational education: $43,670
23. Plumbers, pipefitters, and steamfitters: $41,290
24. Financial managers: $81,880
25. Computer and information systems managers: $92,570
26. Sales representatives, services, all other: $47,000
27. Firefighters: $38,330
28. Dental hygienists: $58,350
29. Paralegals and legal assistants: $39,130
30. Sales managers: $84,220
31. Chief executives: $140,350
32. Self-enrichment education teachers: $30,880
33. Physical therapists: $60,180
34. Pharmacists: $84,900
35. Medical and health services managers: $67,430
36. Sales representatives, wholesale and manufacturing, technical and scientific products: $58,580
37. Employment, recruitment, and placement specialists: $41,190
38. Property, real estate, and community association managers: $39,980
39. Child, family, and school social workers: $34,820
40. Heating, air conditioning, and refrigeration mechanics and installers: $36,260
41. Real estate sales agents: $35,670
42. Special education teachers, preschool, kindergarten, and elementary school: $43,570
43. Legal secretaries: $36,720
44. Training and development specialists: $44,570
45. First-line supervisors/managers of housekeeping and janitorial workers: $29,510
46. Administrative services managers: $60,290
47. Public relations specialists: $43,830
48. Radiologic technologists and technicians: $43,350
49. Sales and related workers, all others: $31,380
50. Personal financial advisors: $62,700


Here is a list of the top jobs in America that I found while researching for this article. I gathered from the poll I listed a few weeks ago that a few of you would like to see articles pertaining to careers. In order for me to bring that information to you, I need your input as to what information in specifically that you are seeking. Training? Education? Pay compensation? Certifications? Companies? Locations? Be mindful that the figures listed above depend upon location and mostly likely education and experience. The figures are suppose to be the average salary compensation. To calculate pay compensation for a specific field in your area, visit. www.salary.com. I am currently in the technical support career field. I possess a Bachelor of Science degree in Computer Information Science, but I have found certifications shine/weigh more heavily in this field majority of the time. Employers want individuals with professional certifications, hands-on work experience in additional to education. Often, if the applicant has enough experience and the right certifications, they will employ that individual over someone with a degree in that field. What career field are you currently pursuing? What advice could you offer to someone looking to advance in that field or in any career?

Winter season hair styles and color

It's getting cold and you know what that means...it's not only time to bring out the winter clothes, it's important we protect our hair from the colder climate. Currently, I am wearing my hair in flat twist that are styled up in a bun. I had some dark brown streaks added around this time last year, but no color change since than. Not only does this style free me from using heating tools and having to handle my hair, but its a style that I can keep my hair moisturized and protected from the colder climate. As I stated before, I am in the process of growing my hair out so I am researching styles that would achieve that goal. I have found that braids, up-do's, and some weaves are good for the winter months...if you maintain them properly. Here is a link I found that gives some good hair care tips for the winter months. http://www.haircareguide.com/winter.htm.

What hair styles and color will you be rocking this fall/winter season?

P.U.S.H.= Pray Until Something Happens

We are frequently faced with things that are out of our control. Sometimes its hard to deal with this fact, but these are the times that we must keep our faith and pray. I am guilty of praying when times are bad, and even thanking God for awhile when results happen. The problem with that is, my church attendance tends to slack off and prayers tend to go from multiple times a day to before bed at night. The key is to pray everyday, no matter what the situation is. We have to learn to trust, believe, and thank God everyday for his grace. We should think him for things he delivered us from 5 years ago, yesterday, and even things that have yet to occur. Surround yourself around people who are where you are in your christian walk and/or further along . These people become very useful /important when you are going through trials and tribulations in your life. They will be the people you can turn to for anything from relationships to just staying focused and strong. Believe me, thank yourself for making the decision. What are you currently praying for??